Then I saw it. That is how it all works. I have to have one of everything and you have to have one of everything because we don’t have a clear social contract about the norms. Or I guess you could say the social contract we do have is about each person for him/herself so I am going against that contract by even making such a request. I could see the whole territory I have to traverse just to borrow one tool, one lousy tool. And I could see how I would rather have my own tool than confront this relatively simple set of transactions. So how then will I get the courage to have conversations about matters much closer to the heart? How will I get the courage up to break down some much larger barrier erected by this culture of separation? How will I find what I need to re-weave that social fabric so my sharing with my neighbor is more relevant than all of the noise I find in the context of separation?