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Making Meaning

June 1st, 2011    -    No Comments

In a workshop about mind-reading with SAVI Communications, I discovered something about myself. Like most human meaning-making creatures, I have been interpreting behaviors and assigning them meaning as if they are the truth. This is a form of mind-reading. Peter Senge’s Ladder of Inference is a great tool to show how Adding Meaning is aRead the Rest…


Responsibility and Leadership

June 23rd, 2010    -    No Comments

Friend and colleague Scott Noelle wrote about “Two Kinds of Responsibility” in his daily reader, in-box delivery. He’s a parenting coach, and his thinking keeps me thinking, about parenting, and today, about leadership. “The word “responsibility” can be confusing because its meaning changes depending on the “active worldview” of the person using it. The oldRead the Rest…


Sufficiency in Failure

May 28th, 2010    -    No Comments

We operate in many instances inside of a designated set of roles in relationship to other human beings: Service provider—customer Coach—client Mother—child Husband—wife Partner—partner Employer—employee When we conjure in our minds eye each of these roles they bring with them a certain set of unspoken yet very real expectations, ideals, ways of being, codes ofRead the Rest…


Take Pause: What is enough?

March 24th, 2010    -    No Comments

How do we know we are, have and do enough? We start in this moment. We find out feet, our back, our hands, our seat. We locate ourselves in space, tracing out the lines of our skin. We receive what we are, right now. We inhale. We start with the physical being. We exhale. WeRead the Rest…


Permission to be Adequate

March 17th, 2010    -    1 Comment

This week, my child’s daycare closed for a day of training. I therefore lost a third of my childcare and my biggest day for writing. In the spirit of sufficiency, the North of my compass, I will be transparent and admit that this week, I am aiming for adequate.


Parenting from Sufficiency: Confession of a Guilty Mom

February 17th, 2010    -    No Comments

My friend said it well – “Guilty Moms are a dime a dozen” – but I really had no idea all the ways in which I was feeling guilty (one of the top Weapons of Scarcity I use on myself regularly) until I started looking around my life. Take the trip we are going on that involves a six-hour drive one way. I am anxious for my three year old to be in the car for so long. Though I was given lots of advice about ideas to entertain her, I was loath to deal with the preparation. Find a DVD player to borrow, collect some DVDs, go to Target’s $1 area for cheap and new-to-her toys, and make some puppets and other home made activities. I had a deadline this week and wasn’t willing to spend my downtime making stuff. I didn’t want to spend the money; didn’t want to have TV in the car. I just didn’t want to deal.


Consumption as Scarcity or Abundance?

February 10th, 2010    -    No Comments

More is Better, the unexamined cultural assumption that drives our economy and makes me feel special in a new pair of boots. But I am also afraid. I am afraid of energy descension (Peak Oil). I am afraid of climate change. Of higher and higher food prices. Of health care insurance and health care costs. I am afraid of what I am hearing and reading (Depletion and Abundance by Sharon Astyk, Half the Sky by Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl Wudunn) and I am afraid that so few of us are listening, including myself much of the time.

Consuming stuff makes me feel part of the world and it dulls my senses. Some experts are talking about the fact that the response loop to our actions is delayed in the earth’s response. So we can’t see it. Sitting still and listening, reading what the experts are actually saying, is frightening. At the moment I am strung between scarcity and abundance, fear and yearning. Sufficiency is the way out, the exit off the continuum of scarcity and abundance. If I could just get by the boots…


Canceling the Course: A Break Through Scare City

February 3rd, 2010    -    1 Comment

Leaving Scare City for Sufficiency


Enough of This! Parenting from Scarcity

January 27th, 2010    -    No Comments

Where are your scarcity stories as a parent?


The Green Monster (Part 2 of 3)

December 15th, 2009    -    No Comments

I am a Green Monster. Other people knew this before I did. Years ago at my sister-in-law’s house we were cleaning up after a large party and I said about some plastic containers, “Let’s just throw those away. It’s ok sometimes.” And a friend of hers replied, “Oh, if she thinks it’s ok, then itRead the Rest…


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