Sufficiency and Loving-Kindness Part 3: Loving Enemies
When I was taught metta at an IMS retreat this summer (click here for part one and here for part two of this series) they encouraged us to go easy
When I was taught metta at an IMS retreat this summer (click here for part one and here for part two of this series) they encouraged us to go easy
Supposedly Albert Einstein recommended we all make nine mistakes a day, so as to live a life of learning. The teacher who shared this admitted he felt three was sufficient
Sufficiency is so not a right or wrong thing. It is a declaration and a practice. It is elusive and concrete. It is a paradox, a box for Pandora to
What is it, I thought, that has someone react with such venom when someone else is clearly under enormous stress? Isn’t that stress, or distress, the source of their erratic and disturbing behavior in the first place? I think that our sense of knowing each other, our sense that each person is doing their best at any given moment, that we are somehow in this together, is hidden from our view and missing in our hearts. This hole in our social fabric, this fraying of our knowing each other, of our sense of deep and real connection to all living being, permits us not to notice, or to even assume the best. This tear in the social fabric makes it ok to beep and yell and gesture in ways that only cause more harm.
For my birthday you gifted me a very generous shopping spree, and this past weekend I went shopping. I prepared for the trip. I wrote a blog it. I thought about which location would be most nourishing. What timing would be most relaxing. And what exactly I needed and the feeling I wanted to have while wearing it. Anything can be sacred, I declared in my thinking about this most loving gift of clothes and of facing my fear of shopping.
In our punitive, righteous culture, where there must always be a loser and the game is Zero Sum, her act of love is radical. Impossible for some of us who could not imagine having the clarity and sense of self – or the tools and knowing – to pull it off.
And what did she pull off? They stay together and the family of four moves forward, together. He gets to be gotten and known in the ugliest of times and loved anyway. (How healing is that?) The kids get to keep their childhoods intact. She gets her best friend and lover back, and a published book. We get to be inspired. The end of suffering is possible. Love is the way.
Upon waking How am I? Who or what is sourcing me? What do I need to write down to clear my mind? What intention will I create today? What conversations
We operate in many instances inside of a designated set of roles in relationship to other human beings: Service provider—customer Coach—client Mother—child Husband—wife Partner—partner Employer—employee When we conjure in our
I am ashamed of myself. I feel as if I am five years old. I have let scarcity rule. I am part of a pack of moms that leave music
Last week it was my birthday. I had no special plans. I thought I was beyond needing to have a special birthday. After all, I thought, “I’m too old to
For this learning path, you will participate in the 4 virtual learning sessions and be enrolled in one of three Racial Affinity Groups:
1) People who identify as People of Color (Black, Indigenous, Asian, Hispanic)
2) People who identify as Bi-Racial or Multi-Racial
3) People who identify as White
*More specific affinity groups may be formed upon the completion of course registration
We believe that it is important to do our own work with people with similar racial experiences to build capacity for cross-race dialogue that supports authentic relationships and deep belonging for everyone. We will ask you to self-select into the group that best aligns with your racial identity. We recognize that for some this is not a simple choice and we are available to have a conversation with you to support your selection.
Together we will:
Where: Online Zoom Sessions
Time: 11am-12:30pm ET/8am PT/4pm GMT*
When: 5-Sessions scheduled between Sept 28, 2023 – Jan 26, 2024 (see below)
*All sessions will run from 11am-12:30pm ET.
Racial Affinity Group Schedule | |
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Thurs, September 28, 2023 — 11am-12:30pm ET | Kick-off/ Authentic Communication |
Thurs, November 2, 2023 — 11am-12:30pm ET | Unpacking Our Racial Autobiographies |
Friday, November 17, 2023 — 11am-12:30pm ET | Self-Compassion |
Thurs, December 7, 2023 — 11am-12:30pm ET | What is Sustainable Abundance? |
Thurs, January 25, 2024 — 11am-12:30pm ET | Inclusive Leadership |
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These four learning sessions will provide you with a new view and innovative framing of the problem as we see it. Below is a brief description of what will take place in each session:
Where: Online Zoom Learning Sessions
Time: 11am-1pm ET/8am PT/4pm GMT*
When: 4-sessions scheduled between Sept 21, 2023 – Jan 18, 2024 (see details below)
*All sessions will run from 11am-1pm ET.
Learning Session Schedule | |
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Thurs, September 21, 2023 — 11 - 1pm ET | Why Context Matters |
Thurs, October 26, 2023 — 11 - 1pm ET | Unpacking Trauma |
Thurs, November 16, 2023 — 11 - 1pm ET | Global Anti-Black Racism: A History Lesson |
Thurs, January 18, 2024 — 11 - 1pm ET | Understanding Power |
Upon registration, you will be directed to our online community space, where all aspects of your modular program will live, including: pre-work, event links, and a space to connect with fellow participants.